I am attending a class on mindfulness and I was totally blown away today by the fact that when asked four questions, we all gave very similar answers. We were asked what we hoped to gain from the class, what our heart was yearing for, what quality comes up when you are your most relaxed self, and what advice would someone who loves you unconditionally give you.

Almost all of us, both men and women, were there for peace and balance. Almost all our hearts yearned for acceptance. Humor was the answer to what comes up at our most relaxed. And, the advice we would get from someone who loves us was all some form of you are okay just as you are. You are not a failure, your are doing enough, you are enough!

If we are enough, why don't we feel it? How can our friends and loved ones see something that we cannot, and what do we do about it now that we know? How do we feel like we are enough?

These are the questions I hope to answer in the class.

I thought today about the right way to do something. This is a problem I have had for a long time. The right answer, the right clothes, the right body type, the right shoes, the list goes on and on. I give so much power to someone else or something else. I believe I am being judged from somewhere. Sometimes the judgement is real, from my mom or my husband, but mostly it is a perception of reality based on this thought of a societal norm. Like Emily Post's book of etiquette, a list of rules that need to be followed in order to be accepted and normal.

My task is to create my own list, based on my own ideas and not care about perception or reality.

Hmmm...maybe I'll wear white after labor day, maybe on my list I'll wear shoes for comfort rather than style. Maybe on my list, waking every day and loving every day and sharing every day will be enough.